Do Not Judge?

I woke up to Matthew 7:1. You brought her to my mind and made me face it. I didn't want to and I still feel like part of me wants to struggle with it, but I want to submit to you. The verse as I read it said this:

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged. and with the same measure you use, it will be measured to you.Why do you look at the speck of dust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye."

And I started thinking of all the times, I have been unfaithful in my own heart; looked at another man, acted too friendly; and before I was married, I even actually allowed another to kiss me. It hurts me to even write it. I didn't understand it at the time, and I still don't. I don't understand how or why I could have ever done that. It wasn't me, it didn't align with what I thought of myself, but anyways, I did it. And so, just because I have not been unfaithful in my marriage, it doesn't mean, I can rightly judge another woman who has.  God. Your words are harsh.  But they make sense.

And then I started wondering what you mean by judge; there's so much controversy in the Christian world about whether we're supposed to judge or not. I started looking up all the passages with the word "judge" in it; and though I only used the Thompson word reference, I think there's a common thread. YOU are the judger of men's hearts. You alone can judge men. We can judge their acts, determine whether the things they do, the things they believe are wrong or right, but we cannot judge the person. We can even say what John is doing is wrong, but I don't know that we cans say John is wrong. Can we? It seems to me that this is why you are God because you alone are righteous and you alone can judge unrighteousness:

" For he has set a day when he will jduge the world with justice by the man he has appointed. He has given proof of this to all men by raising him from the dead" Acts 17:31; and

"On the day, when according to my gospel [why does he say my gospel? makes me uncomfortable], God will judge the secrets of men through Christ Jesus."

"For not even the Father judges anyone, but he has given all judgment to the son."  Romans 2:16

"I said to myself, "God will judge both the righteoust man and the wicked man." for a time for every matter and for every deed is there" Ecclesiastes 3:17

"You, then, why do you judge your brother? OR why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before God's judgment seat." Romans 14:10

I think there's also a difference between judging and discerning. For example, we're probably supposed to say whether the gospel that someone preache is right or wrong, or whether that person is a prophet of God--but I think this is having discernment, not judging.

It seems to me, that instead of judging persons--which we can't do anyways, because we are not righteous ourselves to do it. We are just supposed to follow your biggest command--love your neighbor. That doesn't mean that we can't have discernment about spirits, or doctrine or right and wrong actions of people, but I don't think we can judge the person. That's what Jesus is for.

I think this is what you are saying....? I'l have to study it further.